We’ve ALL been there…..when someone has lost a loved one. WHAT do I say? There are right things and wrong things to say but….WHY do we always say “the wrong thing?” We feel terrible, it hurts us to see another hurting. I was one who just avoided the situation all together. Sound like you? But, how much more hurtful for the person to not be approached by a friend or a co-worker, or an acquaintance to at least just have them acknowledge the pain they are suffering. No hug….no card… NOTHING? It takes a huge amount of strength to address someone who’s grieving but, think about the strength that it takes for the person experiencing the grief. Had YOU been in their shoes before…..I don’t doubt that you would be the first one there. So, what’s the problem here? How about a simple note: “There are no right words….I just want you to know that I care about you.” THEN….”What can I do to help.” NOT….”Call me if you need anything.” THAT WILL NEVER HAPPEN! It’s up to you to be the friend at such a time….BE THERE. That’s it…..just “be there.” Make the effort….at least show up. If that’s not possible, then send flowers. Maybe you could make a note on you calendar to check in a couple times a month. Just knowing that someone cares speaks volumes. Be strong for the other person.

Think about it…..is there someone you know who’s grieving? Someone who’s hurting? Maybe the loss happened years ago…..an “I was just thinking about you” note or bouquet of flowers would be a wonderful surprise!! So….get with it, go on. 😊 Do you owe someone some kind words? Do you owe someone a hug? Do you owe someone some flowers?? As a matter of fact, I DO!!!